How to Control Who Sees Your Birthday on Stitch

Birthday visibility is its own setting

It is easy to assume your birthday visibility follows the same rule as your profile photo or last-seen status, but Stitch treats it as a separate, dedicated setting under Settings → Privacy & Security → Birthday. That separation matters: you might be comfortable with contacts seeing when you were last online but not with them (or anyone) knowing your exact birth date, or the other way around.

The three options

• My Contacts — only people you have added as contacts can see your birthday and get a reminder on the day. This is the recommended default for most people.
• Nobody — your birthday is hidden from everyone, including contacts, even though it stays saved on your own profile.
• Everyone — anyone who can view your profile can see your birthday, not just accepted contacts.

The important default to know

If you have never touched this setting, your birthday is not shown to anyone, even after you add it to your profile — nothing about entering a birth date makes it visible by default. You have to deliberately choose a visibility level before anyone sees it or gets reminded, which means there is no risk in adding your birthday to your profile before you have decided who should see it.

How to change it

1. Open Settings → Privacy & Security → Birthday.
2. Choose My Contacts, Nobody, or Everyone.
3. The change applies immediately — contacts who could previously see it will lose access right away if you switch to a more restrictive option, and vice versa.

What changing it does not affect

Switching your birthday visibility does not change anything else about your account or your other privacy settings — it is scoped entirely to who can see your birth date and receive a reminder about it. It also does not retroactively notify anyone about a change; if you tighten your visibility, people who previously saw it simply stop seeing it going forward, without an announcement either way.

Deciding what is right for you

If you like getting birthday messages from people you actually know, My Contacts gives you that without exposing the date more broadly. If you would rather keep your birth date entirely private — a reasonable choice, since birth dates are sometimes used as identity-verification details elsewhere — Nobody removes you from the feature completely while still letting you use every other part of Stitch normally. Everyone is really only worth choosing if you are already comfortable with your birthday being public information.

Why birth dates deserve more caution than other profile details

A birthday is a small piece of information on its own, but it is one of the details commonly used to verify identity elsewhere — a bank, a customer support line, or an account recovery flow may ask for your date of birth as one of several checks. That is different from a profile photo or a display name, which are rarely used that way. It is not that sharing your birthday on Stitch is dangerous by itself, but it is one more reason to default to a narrower audience (My Contacts or Nobody) rather than treating it the same as your more cosmetic profile details.

This is also why Stitch does not default your birthday to visible the moment you add it — the setting exists precisely because a birth date is a slightly more sensitive category of information than most of what a profile shows, and the choice of who sees it should be deliberate rather than automatic.

How this setting interacts with birthday reminders

Birthday visibility and birthday reminders are two sides of the same feature: visibility controls who is allowed to see the date at all, and reminders are simply what happens for people who are allowed to see it once the day arrives. If you set your visibility to Nobody, you are not just hiding the date on your profile — you are also opting entirely out of anyone getting a reminder banner for you, since there is no one left who is permitted to see it in the first place.

This means you do not need to manage the two settings separately or worry that one might expose you despite the other — tightening visibility is a complete, one-step way to stop being included in anyone's birthday reminders. See our guide on how birthday reminders work for how the banner itself behaves once someone can see your date.